How would you know that you have got a crush on a good friend of yours? When you suddenly start feeling jealous when your good friend starts dating someone else. You feel that the person your good friend is dating is definitely a jerk or a dumbass someone whose unworthy of your friend. You tend to beome over protective of your friend. You want your good friend to spend time with you and no one else. You start getting strong feelings of attraction. You wish and desire for something more than just friendship. You should realize that your feelings for your good friend has turned into something more. You must realize that your relationship has been turned into a friend crush. There are many people who suffer from this and it is important to handle it the right way. Otherwise you might ruin the friendship/relationship with your friend.
This person is a very good friend of yours, since you have known each other for a very long time you do not wish to ruin the freindship. You have shared many special moments with your friend and you cant imagine how your life would be without this good friend.
You are not sure what to do. You are utterly confused. You know you want to continue spending time together-more time. But it is getting very hard. You fantasise about having more of this person and you are beginning to feel like a jealous would-be partner.
Do you pretend everything is the same? Do you start distancing your self hoping your feelings will go back to the way they were? Do you actually talk directly and honestly with your friend about how you feel? What will happen to your relationship if you make the wrong choice? Here are some options for you.
1. Ignore your feelings and pretend that you have never had any strong feelings for your friend. Keep your boundaries in check.
2. Try to spend less time with your friend. Hang out with other friends. Make an effort to find new friends in order to strengthen youself.
3. Continue the relationship with your own hidden desires that one day your friend would have the same feelings for you.
4. Have an honest discussion with your friend regarding your new feelings for them.
All relationships are unique. Analyze the pros and cons of each option and then take a step ahead.
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Relationship advice that makes a difference
August 12th, 2008 at 11:16 pm
1Thanks for the easy to read ideas. Very nicely done.
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